Anal-oral contact, also referred to as anal-oral sex, rimming, or analingus (from anus and lingua), is a form of oral sex involving contact between the anus or perineum of one person and the mouth of another.
Analingus involves a variety of techniques to stimulate the anus including kissing, licking, and sliding the tongue in and out of the anus. Pleasure for the receiver comes from the sensitive nerve endings surrounding the anal opening, which are typically stimulated by the tongue and lips.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with or abnormal about rimming. If you feel tempted to condemn it, remember that, not too long ago, oral sex was considered a disgusting perversion and was outlawed in many states. Now oral sex is so widely accepted that about three-quarters of Americans say they have performed it on a lover and had it performed on them. In fact, many couples don’t make love without it.
Rimming may not ever become as popular as oral sex, but in recent years Americans have become somewhat more sexually experimental. In fact, surveys suggest that around fifteen percent of American adults — more than twenty million people — have experienced some form of anal sex play. There are no statistics specifically on rimming, but as people become more comfortable with sexual experimentation in general, and anal play in particular, it should come as no surprise that many heterosexuals and homosexuals alike are expressing curiosity about analingus.
Eating ass (analingus, or “rimming”) sounds gross to some people, but it is an incredible feeling when done right and done with enthusiasm.
Your partner’s ass MUST be clean – wash it in the shower before sex, or, even better, take a shower together and you wash it make sure it is clean – even inserting a soapy finger in the asshole to make sure it gets clean. If you still don’t want to make anal contact with your tongue, you can use some thin saran wrap as a barrier. Put a little bit of lube on the side of it facing the receiver’s ass, and then run your tongue on top of the saran wrap as outlined below. It’ll feel almost like the real thing.
To start off, have your partner lay flat on the bed, or even better, kneel on the floor/bed with their ass toward you. Play with their butt a little bit rather than just diving in. Run a lubricated (with spit) finger up the crack of the ass and watch it tense up as the finger runs across the asshole.
When you are ready to start eating, pull the cheeks apart, and run your tongue up and down the crack, along the sides of the valley, and let it slide across the asshole just grazing it as it goes by. Get the whole area lubed up with saliva, and nibble on the skin around the ass.
When you’re ready, let your tongue slide across the asshole, and run it in circles around the little rosebud, slowly circling in until you get to the center. You can use your tongue to probe the anus, and then run a flat tongue across the whole area, up the crack of the ass. You can then begin to concentrate on the asshole itself with the tongue. Gently push in on it – the asshole will tense up a little bit in response, but continue to flick and push with your tongue, and the asshole will eventually relax and allow you to penetrate as deep as you wish. There are two sets of muscles at the anus.
The exterior one is controllable, and will relax after you start tongue-stimulating it, giving your tongue something to play with. The internal one is an involuntary muscle and it would take some serious probing to get past it. You can get your partner to reach back and pull their own ass cheeks apart, which will greatly help you and make it less tiring and easier to *eat*! You can also have the lucky recipient sit on your face with the asshole right over your tongue – this can be really cool to do if the receiver is coordinated enough to not fall over on your face and squish you!
One technique to teach someone how to rim properly is through the use of chocolate ice cream topping. Smear it into the receiving partner’s ass crack and have the rimmer eat it out of there. Ice cream topping works better than say, syrup, because it is thicker. The topping takes some effort to get it out of there, requiring a good bit of tongue work.
This tongue work is what differentiates a bad rim job from a great one, and having the rimmer eat it out of there will teach him/her how to give a good rim job. If the color of chocolate makes it too similar to….something else, use butterscotch, strawberry or some other flavor. The important thing is that you use something that is thick and will take some work to get out. The topping will also mask any odors or other negative tastes that you might encounter.
If your partner is a guy, you can reach up and jerk off his cock while you’re doing this, or if it is a girl, you can play with her clit/pussy, although it will be easier for them to do this while you’re busy eating ass. If you’re doing a girl, do not go back and forth between her pussy and her ass, as this could spread germs from one area to the other.
Tips to Analingus
Eating ass makes outstanding foreplay for anal sex, but it is fun just to do on its own as well. Here are some suggestions to get you started. Experiment and find what works best for you and your partner.
This is the most natural position for many people and probably the easiest for beginners. Just roll your partner onto their stomach and start nosing around their bum or licking the small of their back. Before you know it, you’ll be down in the valley. For a better angle and access, have your partner raise their hips slightly and slide a pillow underneath their pelvis. This will raise their butt up and make their cheeks easier to spread. This may progress naturally to them getting up on their knees in a kneeling or crouching position, pushing their ass eagerly into your face.
These positions work well if your partner is athletic or limber. The recipient lays on the bed and assumes a shoulder-stand position (legs and torso in the air, with weight supported on the neck and shoulders). With their ass pointing up, you can kneel upright on the bed and bury your face in it from either side. If you position yourself near your partner’s head, they can rest their legs or knees on your shoulders.
If your partner’s spine is really flexible, they can expose their ass to you fully by placing their feet on the bed above their head, or even placing their knees on either side of their head.
If the person to be eaten is standing up you can crouch down behind them. Here you have easy access to raise your hands and separate their cheeks for a clear shot to that puckered hole. Many people find crouching for any length of time to be uncomfortable. Try sitting in a chair and have your partner stand in front of you with your knees between their legs. Now you have the same access, but because you are sitting in a chair, you have far more leverage to get into some serious eating.
Another variation on the standing recipient is to have them put one leg up on something — chair, a step, the edge of the bathtub. It all depends on what’s handy where you happen to be. The raised leg not only helps separate the cheeks for you, but it exposes the perineum for your tongue to tend to.
If your partner bends over while receiving, it give you a more straightforward angle to approach their hole. Instead of having to tilt your head so that you are coming up from underneath, you can aim directly for the center of their vertical smile. You also have an easy reach to fondle his testicles or her clit.
Try having your partner lean over something that is more than waist high so their feet dangle just above the floor. A kitchen counter or a porch railing often works well for this. If you do happen to be in the kitchen, try covering that ass with whip cream before you start eating. Add some chocolate sauce and nuts and you’ll have a butt sundae.
Sit on My Face
Lay down on the bed with your head laying back over the edge of the mattress. Have your partner back up and squat down onto your face. When they become tired of squatting they can lean back and lay across your body. This is an especially good position if you like to do the eating. With your partners ass shoved so tightly to your mouth, you feel compelled to work your tongue in as deeply as is humanly possible.
The other variation is the always popular 69 position, where one partner squats over the other, and the partner on the bottom raises their knees up to allow access to their hole. This way you can eat each other’s asses. And if you don’t want to argue over who’s on top, try lying on your sides and bend around until you each have your faces comfortably in the other’s crack.
Whatever you and your lover ultimately decide about analingus, discussing it can deepen the intimacy you share. You will learn more about yourself and each other. You will become clearer about what you’re willing and unwilling to try.