One M-i-s-s-i-s-s-i-p-p-i, two M-i-s-s-i-s-s-i-p-p-i, three M-i-s-s-i-s-s-i-p-p-i, four… We’ve all done it before – the countdown during sex that makes or breaks an evening. But how do you know when it’s safe to call it a night? Ever get the impression that she expects you to just keep going and going and going? When it comes to pleasing your lady (and of course yourself), when is enough ever enough – and can it ever be too much?
The mystery of sexual endurance has eluded men for years. There are no hard and fast rules for how long any one sexual encounter should last. However, there are some important instructions to follow when it comes to taking just the right amount of time in bed with a woman. Your timing should be guided by the following five principles: you must communicate your desires, listen carefully, proceed slowly, gauge each others’ reactions, and choose your moments wisely.
Communication is the key to every successful sexual encounter. Telling your partner what you want when you want it makes all the difference as far as timing is concerned. For example, you might expect that your lover wants to have a slow, romantic make out session that lasts all night. You might be surprised if you asked her though – because variety is the spice of life.
An exciting and spontaneous quickie can be equally as rewarding as the all-nighter, just as long as both parties are on the same page. So ask her how she wants it tonight, and then do your best to make it happen. Alternately, you might suggest how you would like things to happen – tell her, for example, that you want her right now, and you’ll be surprised by the eager reaction you might inspire. Communication is just as important during the sexual encounter. Ask her if she is enjoying it, and if you really want to set her off tell her how sexy she is and how you love to see her orgasm (or insert a dirtier word here if you like!)
The next step to a perfectly timed encounter involves two things – your ears. Listen to how your woman is breathing or sighing or moaning and try to align your own breathing as closely to hers as possible. This will help you keep the same schedule and climax at the same time – the ideal end to well timed sexual satisfaction. If she just doesn’t seem that into it, and you barely feel her heart is racing at all – you have two options. The first is to try and encourage her and cater more to her needs, and the second is even more simple – try to find a more engaging partner next time around.
The third important rule for ensuring good timing of your sexual encounters is to proceed slowly. It is almost always best to approach a woman cautiously, especially if you are new to each other. There will be plenty of time for fast, passionate rolls in the hay once you get to know her and earn her trust – but until then, take your time to enjoy her body. This will help you learn more about her timing as well as your own (though it may cause you some slight frustration along the way…).
Gauging your partner’s reactions is an equally important way of ensuring successful sexual encounters. You must pay attention to how she likes it best, least, second best, and third – well, you get the picture. Most women have their most favorite positions, and some women can only climax in certain positions. So be creative, try different things, and always make a mental note about which way works for her and you. If you sense that she wants a session to last a really long time, save her favorite moves and maneuvers until you feel like the end is coming near for both of you (… literally).
The final method of ensuring a successful countdown to your next sexual encounter is to choose your moments wisely. If it is one of those nights when you feel tired and weary, and your partner is dressing up in her sexiest nighty and lighting all the candles, you best warn her of the chance that you will have a limited capacity or endurance for the evening. A subtle way of doing this once you have already begun, is telling her that she is just too hard to resist, and you just can’t help yourself.
If you are lucky (the key here – do not try it very often) and you combine the effort with the previous advice (especially where you tell her how much you love to see her climax), hopefully she will be right there with you. Alternately, if you feel that it is just not her night, you might save your moves for the morning. Morning sex can be less complicated because it usually cannot carry on for too long, before one or both of you need to jump in the shower and get to work.
Follow these important steps and you are sure to enjoy a very well timed sex life in the future. Only a few things may prevent this from happening, despite all the advice in the world. Some women are just very hard to satisfy – both in and out of the bedroom. If you sense that your timing is just never right with a woman, or she is constantly complaining about your lack of endurance or attentiveness, consider that the problem is hers more than yours and move on. When you find a good sexual partner you will know it because timing is something you learn about each other, and quite often come to master! Also, consider that men are not naturally equipped to always have sex for hours upon hours. While there are some medical aides available that can help you perform like the energizer bunny, it will take a trip to the doctor for help in that department. In the end, the best advice is this – make the most of what you got, when you got it. With a little practice, you’ll be counting down to the most perfectly timed sexual satisfaction of your life.
4, 3, 2, 1… Enjoy!