Have you ever wondered why you haven’t met the right person yet? Are you trying to find the time for a social life outside of work? Well, you are not alone! More and more North Americans, in particular, spend most of their time working at the office, in their homes, and on their evenings and weekends. With this focus on work, it’s easy to lose track of a personal life.
But it’s hard to lead a rich life when all you do is work. And, unless you happen to work with lots of available women or your office has a progressive dating policy, you probably won’t find any companions at work either. The most common excuse people give for leading workaholic lives and staying single is that they just don’t have enough time to meet people. Well, it’s time to change that. With these tips on meeting people, even the most hardworking guys can find dates!
Are you a workaholic?
There are lots of people out there who are workaholics but don’t even know it. Here are some clues to determining whether you are a workaholic:
- Do you feel guilty when you are not working?
- Do you tend to commit to too many things?
- Do you end up missing or skipping meals because you are working?
- Do you check your email and/or voicemail when you are on vacation?
- Do you take all your allotted holidays?
If you answered yes to several or all of the questions above, you are probably a workaholic. But don’t worry – even if you are a workaholic, you can still find ways to meet women so that you can find something other than work to do on the weekends.
Speed dating has become almost commonplace in today’s dating scene and yet there are lots of people who could take advantage of it but haven’t yet. Speed dating is simple – it involves groups of single people who meet in one location and then rotate to different partners for brief meetings, usually less than ten minutes each. The idea behind it is that an individual can meet a lot of different people in one night rather than wasting a whole date on someone they aren’t interested in.
For workaholics, this is an ideal dating situation because you get the biggest bang for your buck, so to speak. Instead of sacrificing a lot of time on meeting someone, workaholics around the world can unite and meet at a local speed dating service.
Internet Dating/Social Media
Most workaholics spend a lot of time on their computers, so why not take advantage of that? Internet dating is another contemporary dating scheme that is a very convenient way for busy people, and those who spend most of their time working or on their computers, to meet other people who are interested in starting a relationship.
Because internet dating is so popular, you can choose from several different internet dating sites or social media to get started. And, because so many people are turning to the Internet to find someone to connect with, internet dating sites make it simple for newcomers to get started.
Plus, workaholics make very good internet daters for a reason – workaholics tend to approach any new “project” in their lives in the same way so adding internet dating to the mix will be simple for many workaholics. For example, just as workaholics check their email many times a day, they can get in the habit of emailing and chatting with new people regularly.
For workaholics, one of the many benefits of internet dating is that you can regulate how much time you spend chatting or emailing each other. Workaholics, who have too much work and not enough time, find this very appealing. Plus, you can decide at what point you want to meet your internet dating companions which means that you can avoid unwanted blind dates too!
While this might be “old school” when compared to other dating techniques, there’s nothing wrong with putting a personal ad in the paper. That way, you can advertise the fact that you are a workaholic seeking someone with similar interests and you won’t have to explain your love of work when you meet in person.
Meeting People At Work
For workaholics, the most logical place to meet people is at work. However, not all workplaces have progressive dating policies, so this might not be an option for everyone. However, there are many workplaces that not only allow dating amongst employees, they even encourage it.
For example, take a large law firm. Because lawyers, especially early on in their careers, spend most of their time at work, it’s not uncommon for lawyers within the same firm to start dating. Many firms find this not only acceptable, but ideal because it means that their employees, the lawyers, can’t complain about their long work hours that keep them away from their partners. If both partners work in the same office, then they will see each other all day long, at work.
Depending on your profession then, meeting people at work might be the best place for workaholics.
Once you start dating…
Let’s jump ahead and assume that you’ve met someone now. Keep in mind that your workaholic tendencies might be a forgivable flaw at the beginning of the relationship, but over time, this might wear thin. Your partner might start to wonder how she can get your attention, and she might start to feel like as though you aren’t interested in her because you spend most of your time with your first passion: work.
For these reasons, you should try to balance your work and social life, where possible. Or, when you meet someone and start dating, you should tell her that your job demands that you spend a lot of time working. That way, when she doesn’t see you between 8 am and 8 pm, she won’t start wondering where you are.