It’s a sad but true fact that some women will only want you for your money. Under the best of circumstances, you’d be happy to share with the woman in your life but if dollar signs are all she’s seeing when she looks at you, it’s time to take some drastic action.
Sure, you might be enjoying a few dates with a hot number but only if you take her to the best places in town in a fabulous car and get her really nice gifts along the way. If you’re seeing a woman who would normally be way out of your league in the looks department, she’s most likely just using you for your wallet and taking advantage of your kindness. She might not even sleep with you either, saying she “saving” it until things get serious between you two. That means you keep forking out the dough until someone with a higher credit limit comes along.
A gold-digging woman may act like she’s interested in you but all she cares about is freeloading. How can you tell? Pay close attention to the types of questions she asks. If she asks how much money you make as soon as you meet her, that’s a clear tip-off. Ditto for questions about the type of car you drive, who designed your suit or if you own your own home. If you don’t come up with the right answers, she’ll drop you like a hot potato and move on to someone with better prospects.
If you’ve just met a woman you really like but you’re not sure if she is a gold-digger or not, it’s up to you to protect your money and your heart with a few simple tests. You don’t need money to impress someone who truly cares about you, so be prepared for a little creative dating to discover her true intentions.
If you do happen to be financially well-off but you don’t want her to know about it so soon, take her out to dinner at a nice enough restaurant so that you don’t have to check for cockroaches in your salad but you won’t max out your credit card either. Don’t go overboard and try to use a coupon though—sure, you don’t want a gold-digger but there’s no need to be undeniably cheap either.
Downgrade your vehicle for a while and borrow something older but still functional. If you show up in a junker with a two-for-one dinner coupon in your hand, she’ll wonder how you two ever hooked up in the first place. The trick is to not go overboard with your more frugal lifestyle, just enough to cause some reaction. If she doesn’t bat an eye being seen with you in a 10 year old Toyota, chances are she legitimately likes you for who you are.
On the other hand, expecting her to tool around in a rusted out 1975 Pinto just looks suspicious—you don’t want her to guess that you’re testing her, remember. Take her to some free or inexpensive concerts in the local city park, go in-line skating or visit the flea market. If she doesn’t complain, it’s a good indication that she is interested in you and not your net worth.
Suggest that you both spend a Sunday volunteering at the food bank—if she turns up her nose at the truly unfortunate, then you’ve got all the proof you need and you can tell her to take a hike.
If you are genuinely financially challenged, due to temporary unemployment or full-time studies for example, a quality woman should be able to see past the immediate cash crunch and focus on you instead. Unfortunately, a true gold-digger would never date a poor man. If her watch costs more than your monthly salary, move on now and avoid the whole heartache. Likewise, if she only talks about what her ex-boyfriend bought her or owned, you know that she’s only got money on the brain.
The ability to shower a woman with gifts is not what makes a wealthy man desirable. Rather, it is the power associated with a man’s wealth, or to put it in simpler terms, what he can do with his money. Since society has pretty much moved beyond equating a huge salary with the qualities of a “good mate”, there are other ways to win a woman over and prove your worth.
Be attentive to her needs—if she says that she’s a vegetarian, don’t take her out to the local steakhouse, for example. If she’s Buddist, buy her a book by the Dalai Lama, that sort of thing. By actually listening to her and acting accordingly, you’re worth more to her than the flashy guy in the Lexus who only talks about himself.