Fingering Techniques to Satisfy Your Lover

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Do you enjoy exploring your woman’s secret garden with your fingers? Are you having a hard time figuring out how to satisfy her completely? Here are some tips that may help you explore her better.

Keeping your hands clean and your nails trimmed is probably the most important tip for any man. After all, if your hands aren’t clean, do you think she’ll let you anywhere near her sacred garden?

Not only can blunt fingernails cause discomfort, they can cause infections of the yeasty kind. So remember that first and foremost, your hands must be clean and your fingernails should be as short and neat as possible.

You don’t have to get crazy on her in order to drive her crazy. Teasing her with your fingers is a wonderful thing in itself. Use your middle finger to gently rub her clitoris. As she begins to get mildly moist down there, you may become a little more abrupt with your rubdown (so to speak). Circular motions are usually preferred by women.

If she begins to get a little antsy and starts maneuvering around somewhat, read her body language and determine whether she’s pleased or not. If she likes to have her clitoris rubbed with one finger, then imagine how much she’ll love it if you use two!

When you begin with two fingers, you can become slightly more aggressive since by now she’s more receptive to your fingers. Depending on your lady, you can get either more aggressive or remain gentle — you will know by her reaction.

The reason that fingers are sometimes better than penises is because of their ability to maneuver more adequately. You can always hit the g-spot with your fingers whereas it’s a hit-or-miss situation with Mr. Slimy.

When you put your fingers inside her, don’t be afraid to explore her insides. Now I’m not referring to naming all the parts inside her as you touch them, but rather get to know what she likes by her reactions.

As she will inevitably become wet, begin stroking her faster. Go in and out at a constant pace, reverting from her vagina back to her clitoris. If you can use your tongue on her clitoris whilst inserting your fingers inside her, she’ll be all the more thankful.

Whisper to her, ask her if she likes it, if you should go deeper, if you should lick, finger or rub her. Ask yes or no questions or she may lose the mood. Let her concentrate on pleasure; not teaching you the art of using fingers.

Many inexperience lovers out there take the term “finger fucking” too literally and believe that jamming their fingers into the soft folds of a woman’s vagina is the way to go.

The ultimate tip of this article is to suggest that you have a woman masturbate to show you what she likes first. I will say this many times… communication in any sexual experience is the key, and a visual display to show personal preference is not only arousing, but helpful!

The Clitoral Orgasm

This orgasm occurs at the peak of clitoral stimulation. It begins with an intense sexual excitement within the clit and then as the orgasm peaks it surges waves of pleasure throughout the body. Only several years ago did Masters & Johnson break the myth that this was the only kind of orgasm that women could have, when they showed proof of the g-spot orgasm.

The clitoris is the most sensitive part of a woman’s body and sexual arousal is always felt in the clitoris no matter where the orgasm takes place. It is usually that the sexual arousal first originates in the clit, and is considered an orgasmic starting point.

The clitoris is located below the mons veneris on the anterior portion of the vulva. The inner vaginal lips, also called the labia minora when closed, tend to hide the clit, but it is interesting to note that those inner vaginal lips are attached to the underside of the clitoris and thus play an important role in the network of nerves, which transmit sexual stimulation.

The clitoral hood is formed by the connection of the inner vaginal lips. This small hood covers the clitoris in much the same manner as a foreskin covers a penis. When you pull the hood back you can see that the clit is USUALLY about the size of a pencil eraser, however the size does vary from woman to woman, much the same way penis size varies from man to man.

The clitoris is abundantly supplied with nerves. The part of the clitoris that you see is actually much like the head of a man’s penis, and as a man has a shaft to his penis, a woman has a shaft to her clitoris. The shaft is located above the hood, and is more easily felt when a woman is aroused as it become more rigid as it fills with blood.

Clitoral orgasms can be very intense, but may not be as “deep” as others. These orgasms are no doubt very, very pleasing and helpful in achieving female ejaculation. Stimulating the clitoris can be a very good place to start when trying to achieve female ejaculation, after providing stimulation to the g-spot.

A woman’s lover will want to respect that the clitoris is the most sensitive part of a woman’s body. Rough rubbing directly on it (especially with rough skin) is not usually the ideal. Another area that if often misunderstood is that most women want to have constant, repetitive motion to one or both sides of her clit. Many women have a favorite side, so it is always good to ask which side your baby likes, or if you are the receiver of such divine fun, to tell your lover.

Variation of speed and moving all around the clit is not generally preferred. Most women need a constant, repetitive, stimulation with little to no variation just as a vibrator would offer. That is one reason why women love those beautiful toys so much!

Pulling back the hood

This is going to depend on a woman’s clitoral sensitivity and how aroused she is. The more aroused a woman is, the more she may want or not want her clitoris directly stimulated.

For those woman who are particularly sensitive, pulling back the hood and receiving direct clitoral stimulation is not going to be a pleasuring experience. If a woman likes her hood pulled back, the best way to do so is by spreading her lips apart.

Range Of Motion

When women masturbate, they often rotate around their clit in a circular motion, while other women prefer a side-to-side or up and down motion. Another technique is rolling the clitoris with the thumb and pointer finger. This should be done gently.

The G-Spot Orgasm

This orgasm may begin at the g-spot and stay focused there throughout the building and final release of the orgasm, or may expand throughout the body. This orgasm is demonstrated when the g-spot is stimulated and becomes “puffy” and swollen. This results in the tissue becoming firm to the touch.

Like the vaginal orgasm, this usually takes longer to build. Because the g-spot is not stimulated as much by friction as much as pressure, using a rhythmic pushing against the g-spot is more pleasure than light rubbing.

Most women describe this type of orgasm as an intense, deeply sensual pressure that builds until it feels like the entire vaginal explodes with ecstasy and is usually followed by euphoric energy that spreads throughout entire body. This orgasm, like the vaginal orgasm can release an emotional response as it provides women with a sense of being penetrated more than just physically, but also in a more emotionally vulnerable sense.

The most effective stimulation is using rhythmic thrusting. These rhythmic movements create vibrations, which induce pleasure in the cervix and uterus as well as in the G-spot and vagina. When fingers are introduced into the vaginal opening, the initial pleasure is primarily from the feeling of distention or fullness.

Using more than one finger may increase pleasure felt in some women as it stimulates the vaginal walls which may also stimulate the G-spot as pressure increases and the vagina is filled.

This sexual stimulation is due to the highly sensitive and many nerve endings in the g-spot. While discomfort may initially be felt, these sensations may gradually fade. Fingers that curve upward place pressure on the g-spot and this can be very stimulating. While width is a positive pleasure inducer, it is not as important as where the fingers are stimulating a woman in her vagina.

Because all women are different, and some have different preferences for stimulation, you may find that while some women prefer hard thrusting, others prefer softer, strokes. As in all sexual techniques, the best is good communication.

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