Get Her in the Mood for Sex (Even When She Doesn’t Want It)

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Guys, are you looking for some tips on how to get your girl in the mood for sex more often? Then you’ve come to the right place! There are times when your girlfriend doesn’t seem randy enough for your tastes, right? You’d like her to be up for a quick round of sex anytime, wouldn’t you? Unfortunately, you’re going to find that that’s not always the case. In fact, some women seem to have a low sex drive when compared to their male partners, and this can cause friction in some relationships.

Here are a few ways to increase your chances of loving by first getting her in the mood for it. And when she’s horny, you won’t regret it!

Timing is everything

When it comes to getting her in the mood for sex, you must remember that timing is everything. After all, she might not want to come home from a tiring and stressful day at work only to find you naked in bed, waiting for her. She needs time to relax and unwind from the day, just like you do. She might not want to have sex until she feels a little better, so don’t try to jump her bones the minute she comes home.

Instead, get her in the mood for love by showing her how considerate you are and how much you care about her. So, break out a bottle of wine, and have a glass waiting for her when she gets home. Run her a hot bubble bath so she can relax and soak the day away before she climbs on top of you. I promise you that taking the time to let her unwind and relax is one of the most effective ways to get her in the mood for sex.

The allure of scent

Scent may be a primal instinct, but isn’t sex a fairly primal act anyway? To get your girl in the mood, you need to take advantage of our natural attraction to scents and use that to get her aroused. One way you can use scent to turn her on is to use a subtle, yet aromatic cologne. But don’t douse yourself in it; instead, apply it sparingly to a few areas on your body, including your neck, your wrists and your waist-area. The fresh, peppery smell of male cologne is often an excellent way to get her close to you.

Aromatherapy is another great way to use scent to seduce. According to an article written by F. Bryant Furlow in Psychology Today, different scents cause different reactions in humans. For example, lavender is said to put people in a pleasant mood. Furlow explains that “mood is demonstratably affected by scent,” and for the scientist in you, the “apocrine glands exude odorous steroids known to provoke sexual behavior in other mammals.” So, if the cologne and the aromatherapy don’t put your girl in the mood for love, try smothering her in your semi-worn t-shirts. You never know—she might like it!


Like the song claims, “I want you to want me.” Your girlfriend wants you to want her too, and that’s why a good way of putting her in the mood for sex is to let her know that you lust after her. A woman feels sexy when she knows that she’s attractive, so let her know how good she looks, and how great she is in bed. You can buy her lingerie if it will make her feel sexier, and tell her how good she looks, even when she’s not naked on top of you. Compliments throughout the day and the week will boost her self-confidence and her desire for you.


This may seem like an obvious way to get your partner in the mood for sex, but many men neglect this very important step, and that’s a big mistake. Unlike you guys, most women only achieve orgasm through direct clitoral stimulation, and not by having their partners jump them with no prep time beforehand.

Also, remember that foreplay doesn’t simply have to mean oral sex. You can turn on your girlfriend before sex through a variety of means. For example, when she gets home, is finished soaking in the hot bubble bath you had waiting for her, and has enjoyed the glass of red wine you poured for her, she might enjoy a thorough body massage. For this, you will need good quality massage oil and soft hands.

When you are done massaging her back, move on to her legs, and then get her to lie on back so that you can massage her front. At this point, you will both be ready for more serious foreplay. Then you can tease her with a few nipple licks and some oral sex before you move on to other bedroom activities.

Her pleasure comes first

Imagine if you didn’t have an orgasm every time you had sex; or, imagine if you could only achieve orgasm through oral sex and not direct intercourse. Sex wouldn’t be that much fun, would it? Many women experience this each time they have sex, so is it any wonder she doesn’t want to climb into bed with you three times each day?

For this reason, you should always make sure that she is getting the pleasure she deserves. You may be able to reach orgasm at the drop of a hat, but she might not, so always take the time to make sure she’s satisfied. This may mean that you will have to spend a lot of time giving her oral sex before you get to join in the fun. Or, it may mean you will have to talk to her about what she likes so that you can be sure she’s really coming, and not just faking it.

There you have it, gentlemen. As you can see, there are a number of ways to improve your sex life and hers. Take these comments to heart and your sex life (and your girlfriend) will thank you!

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