When it comes to the female orgasm, most guys are confused. This is understandable considering that many men are clueless regarding the different types of orgasms and stimulations that can be given, not to mention if a certain part of the vagina has to be manipulated in order to give a woman an earth-shattering orgasm.
Well, if you’re among the bewildered, have heart; we will try to help you understand the female genitalia and the female orgasm inside and out.
When a woman orgasms, regardless of which area of her body you’re manipulating, her body physically reacts in the same way. During an orgasm, she feels:
- stimulation in her clitoris
- her heart rate, blood pressure and breathing increase
- tension builds within her pelvis
- muscles contract throughout her body, especially in the vagina, uterus, rectum, and pelvic floor
- tension is released upon orgasm
It was Sigmund Freud who first suggested that there were two types of female orgasm. However, sex researcher Alfred Kinsey refuted the claim and his view was that there is only one type of female orgasm. Others sex experts claim that women can have three types of orgasm: clitoral, vaginal and blended. But considering the latter is literally the other two put together, I wouldn’t necessarily classify it as a type.
However, clinical studies prove that Kinsey was right. Most sexologists now agree that an orgasm is an orgasm, no matter what area of a woman’s genitalia or body is being stimulated.
Nonetheless, here are the two areas of a woman’s vagina that can lead to the most satisfying female orgasm:
The clitoris’ only function is to provide pleasure for women. Researchers have not been able to discover any other reason for its existence, which is fine by us. As well, keep in mind that, because the clitoris is much easier to find, female orgasm is usually achieved via clitoral stimulation.
Inside the vagina, you can find the infamous G-spot, or the Grafenberg spot. The G-spot is located on the front wall (toward the navel) of the vagina, between the opening and the cervix. Theory dictates that the G-spot can be either a bundle of nerves coming from the clitoris or a gland (or series of glands) that produces lubrication.
Usually, after one orgasm, guys need to rest (unless you’re one of those lucky guys who can achieve multiples), but it’s believed that women can experience three tempos of orgasm, which include the single orgasm, the serial multiple orgasm and the sequential multiple orgasm.
With the single orgasm, a woman experiences one rush of pleasure. The orgasm can last anywhere from a few seconds to a minute.
Although most women claim that they cannot achieve this awesome ride, a multiple orgasm occurs when several orgasms are had in a row, that is, one directly after another.
Sequential orgasms occur in a sequence that separates each orgasm by a few minutes or so. Many women describe it as a roller coaster ride.
How to give orgasm to her
Many women claim that reaching orgasm is more difficult via penetration than it is via stimulation of the clitoris. As well, when it comes to vaginal stimulation of any area, most women agree that fingers are the preferred tool.
Keep in mind that any type of sexual stimulation can lead a woman to orgasm. And although there are some women who can will themselves to orgasm without even being touched, it is rare.
Now we all know that every woman is different and there is no surefire method to guarantee the female orgasm. But there are ways to increase her chances of doing so and your chances of bringing her there.
There is one thing that all women can definitely agree on when it comes to the female orgasm, however. If you can seduce their brains, chances are, their bodies will follow. And because an orgasmic woman is a happy woman, if you keep her sexually satisfied, she’ll want more sex, which, in turn, will garner you more orgasms.
Seduce her mind
If you want to make sure that her body surrenders, you must first have sex with her brain.
Talk about sexual plans
It’s okay to get her mind going with visions about what you’re going to do or what you imagine doing to her. Talking about sex is the first step in enriching your sex life.
Reveal your fantasies
In the spirit of talking about sex, you need to be open about your fantasies, within reason, of course. Tell her about the one in which she’s stripping in a gentleman’s club, for example, and you have no idea who she is, but she approaches you and begins silently seducing you with a dance in front of hundreds of men. In turn, you can ask her deep, probing questions and get her to reveal all the crazy things she imagines when her brain is wandering into the realm of female orgasm.
Reminisce about past sexual experiences
If you can recall a time when you made her waters fall, talk about it. By doing so, you will stir those feelings she experienced when she was reaching her peak.
Make her feel sexy
From getting her to put on lingerie to looking at her as though she was the hottest woman on Earth, making her feel sexy will make her feel sexual.
Awaken her body
Now that you’ve managed to stir her mind, the rest is a matter of mechanics and technique.
Relax her body
Steering clear of her sexualized body parts, take a few minutes to give her a light massage that’ll awaken her senses. Rub her shoulders, her back and her thighs — lightly tap each area with your fingertips.
Ignore her vagina
The best way to encourage a woman’s orgasm is by ignoring the area from where it originates for a while. Start rubbing her body more aggressively, kiss her body and go near her vaginal area without actually touching her inner lips (labia minora). Do the same to her nipples: kiss her breasts without actually placing your mouth over her nipples.
Use your mouth & hands
Spread her legs and bring your mouth to her clitoris. Use your tongue to lightly tap against it for a minute. Eventually, start pressing your tongue against her clitoris and the hood while you lick it. At this point, use your fingers to manipulate her vagina. Because you have more control with your fingers than you do with your penis, you can manipulate her clitoris and G-spot more easily. She may reach orgasm at this point.
Do two things at once
If you can, suck her nipples while your fingers are doing their thing inside her. Or, you can tickle the outskirts of her anus while you penetrate her. Accomplishing two tasks at once will confuse her senses and may lead to orgasm.
This is a tough one because some women like quick thrusts, others prefer slow thrusts, and yet others like a combination of the two. I recommend that you do the latter. Start off with slow, deep thrusts and then increase your speed but not so much that you’re no longer penetrating her deeply. If she responds in a positive fashion, place her in a position that will allow for full penetration. She may orgasm at this point.
While many women will have reached orgasm at this point, some may not be able to. Remember; it’s not your fault — especially if you’ve tried all the aforementioned tips. It may be because she can’t surrender her mind to the situation, or isn’t as well-acquainted with her body as she should be. If that’s the case, sex toys may help her discover the spot that drives her to orgasm. Start off with a simple vibrator and if you like the reaction you get, incorporate other toys into your sex life.
Like I mentioned before, because all women are different, what makes one reach orgasm may not work for another. It’s up to you and her to keep the communication lines open about what you like and try your hand at a variety of sexual techniques.