Remember the first time you and your partner had sex? It was probably amazing and for the first few months of the relationship, you probably couldn’t keep your hands off of each other. But then you grew accustomed to each other and the number of times you were having sex dropped to once a week, during a good week! This is very common for couples – you grow very comfortable with each other so that the mere touch of your hand on her leg no longer sends shivers down her spine.
Everyone wants to relive that first time they had sex with their partner, but how can you make the 1000th time feel like the 1st time? Keep reading to find out different ways you can keep your sex life fresh and exciting.
Visit Your Old Haunts
Think about what you and your partner did when you first started having sex with each other. Was there a particular place you had sex? Did you have a special restaurant or bar that you went to together? Maybe there’s a special hotel or resort you went to and had raucous sex? It’s time to relive the past by revisiting these locales.
If possible, start by looking at pictures of these places before you visit them. You will be able to relive memories that way and will build up some excitement about going back and experiencing your romantic and sexual past together. If you are heading to a hotel or bed & breakfast that is special to you, go the extra mile and make it special. Order some champagne and strawberries, and make sure that you both leave your cell phones and computers at home! By going back in time like this, you will both remember how passionate and wonderful your love life was at one time and this will help you unlock the passion again.
For high school sweethearts, this is a great way to get back that lust and romance that you once experienced. All you need is a car with a roomy front seat or back seat and access to a drive-in theater. There’s nothing better than going to the drive-in to “watch” a movie you really don’t want to see. Just park far enough away from other cars so that you don’t have to worry about being caught in the act (unless that excites you!). If you really want to get in the mood, sneak in a bottle of wine and have a glass or two while you get comfortable. Then, when the movie starts and everyone else is distracted, you can start to make the moves on your partner. Before you know it, you will be making out like regular high school kids. The good news is that this time, you don’t have to feel guilty about “going all the way!”
Hotel Lounge Strangers
This is a great way to spark that romance once again. Book a vacation – it doesn’t matter if it’s one night or if it’s three weeks. While she is getting ready in the hotel room for your romantic night out, you should get out of the hotel to give her the time she needs to get ready. Go down to the hotel lounge and have a drink or two. When she’s ready, she will come down to the lounge and you will feel a spark of romance and lust at seeing the finished product, rather than the process of her getting ready.
You can even role play if you want to increase the intensity of your attraction to each other. For example, you can offer to buy her a drink and pretend as though you are strangers, instead of an old married couple. Let the bartender and the other lounge patrons marvel at your ability to pick up a hot chick so quickly. Then after a few drinks, head back to your hotel room for a late night booty call. This little game will leave you feeling like it’s the first time all over again.
I’ve had friends tell me that the best sex they have with their partners is when they’ve been unable to have sex. For instance, a couple of friends weren’t able to have sex with their husbands because they had recently given birth. Because of this, they had to wait for up to 6 weeks before they could have sex again. Whatever the reason, if you both know that you can’t have sex for an extended period of time, the pressure builds up. All you can think about is the fact that you can’t have sex and it can be a huge turn-on for lots of people.
One way to use this to your advantage is to slow down your love life. Pretend that you can’t have sex. Spend the night kissing and cuddling rather than having sex. Think back to when you were a teenager and could be satisfied making out for hours at a time without sex! You will find that keeping your clothes on will increase the attraction because it represents a boundary that you can’t cross. Do this for a week or so and by the time you rip off your clothes and have sex, it will feel just as great as it did that first time!
There are lots of great ways to improve your sex life, even if you’ve been married for years and are bored with the status quo. Use the tips and techniques discussed above to generate ideas. Talk to your spouse about it and see how you can improve your sex life together. Always remember that it’s no one person’s fault; sometimes couples just get too comfortable with each other and too tired as a result of work, children, and other commitments. With a little bit of work and lot of creativity, you too can recapture the romance and lust that you experienced when you first got together with your partner.