There is an up-side to every break up – it’s called rebounding. Rebounding is mostly about healing from a broken heart. However, it also involves being completely selfish and doing what is right for you right now. The priorities of effective rebounding are simple: avoiding the ex, not getting seriously or immediately involved in a relationship, having fun and having no regrets! No regrets rebounding sounds like every man’s dream, and with the proper strategy, it can be any man’s reality. So, if you plan on bouncing back from your last relationship like a true champ, pay attention now and start rebounding with no regrets right away.
When it comes to bouncing back like a true champion, your first priority is to avoid the ex – at all costs. This is because run-ins with your recently broken-hearted ex-girlfriend can be very detrimental to your ability to successfully rebound. You ex knows you all too well, and may try to make you feel guilty about wanting or trying to move on with your life. Second of all, you must ensure that none of your rebounding experiences occur with your girlfriend (hence, avoiding the “rebound” experience altogether), or any of her friends of relatives. You may want to screen your phone calls and emails to ensure that “accidental” contact with the ex is ruled out. Of course, avoiding all of her regular haunts of neighourhood hangouts goes without saying. In order to keep a safe distance from the ex, you will also have to make an extra effort to keep busy: work long hours, work out more, play more ball, or call up with all of your old buddies. You don’t want to be caught off guard with any feelings of loneliness or longing, so try to keep as preoccupied as possible.
Once you have implemented all of the means of avoiding the ex, it’s time to meet new people and jump back into the dating pool. The idea is not to hit the club and go on fishing expeditions, but to meet new and different people that will boost your outlook on future relationships with women of the opposite sex. If you go out looking for a new adventure and an enjoyable evening as a new bachelor, you are almost guaranteed to meet new people. Women, in particular, will be drawn to your casual, not-trying-too-hard attitude and you’ll be the centre of attention in no time.
So, you’ve met some nice women and you would like to pursue casual dating without forming any long term attachments – the question is how can you avoid relationships with the women you meet? First of all, you must be somewhat weary of the ladies you choose to entertain. You should try to avoid, for example, husband hunters and pregnancy pariahs. Younger girls are less likely to be hunting for a long term mate than women in their late twenties or thirties – but there is no guarantee here since young women tend to fall harder and faster than women with more experience.
Regardless of a woman’s age, it is always a good idea to be open about your informal approach to dating. In other words, explain that you are fresh out of a relationship, and that you are not looking for anything serious. Also, make sure that your actions are consistent with your outlook or explanation. Don’t go inviting a new casual romance to family dinners, or to all of your friend’s houses. Regardless of your warnings, if you make her feel like she is an important part of your life, she may form emotional attachments that you are not ready to maintain. So don’t be afraid to make it a “part-time” romance, and to throw plenty of warnings her way about you present inability to commit.
Another important aspect of no regret rebounding is knowing when to get out. There is definitely a time limit for casual dating. In other words, after a certain amount of time spent with one woman, the term “casual” becomes more and more difficult to apply. Before she falls for you (even though she still won’t admit it) and grows too many expectations, it is best to make a clean break away. The last thing you want to have to do is break up with someone that you never really intended on dating. Heed this warning: if you end up breaking your rebound’s heart, you will regret the rebound in the end. So pay attention, and don’t spend too much time in any once place with any one woman!
If you do find yourself in a bit of a sticky situation with a woman who expects some sort of explanation from you, there are a couple of sure-fire ways to get yourself off the hook without causing any serious harm. First of all, you need to explain to her that what you really admire about her is her independence and strong sense of self. Then you need to explain to her that she is definitely girlfriend material, and that you could have strong feelings for her, but that you are just not able to cope with the responsibility of a serious relationship at the moment. If all else fails, cry like a baby and tell her you are still in love with your ex.
The last rule for rebounding without regrets is simple: have fun. This means doing all the things you can’t do when you are involved in a relationship: eat and drink whenever and whatever you please, be completely selfish with your time, and be equally as selfish when it comes to the bedroom. No one’s holding a scorecard when it comes to rebounding, so if you play your cards right it’s a no-lose situation.
The final aspect of rebounding like a champ is perhaps the most important – the expiration date. You can’t rebound forever, no matter how long or painful the last relationship was, or how much fun the no regrets rebounding is! If you maintain a personal life that consists of jumping from one rebound relationship to the next, you could miss out on something good without even knowing it. Alternately, you could rebound yourself right into old age, and find yourself old and alone, wondering about the one who got away. So rebound with no regrets like a champ for months on end, but know when to throw in the towel.