Some people say it’s just nervousness. Others say it’s a psychological problem. In fact, premature ejaculation can be both of these things. And whatever the cause, if you’ve experienced this problem, you’re probably looking for some sort of solution.
Technically speaking, premature ejaculation occurs during sexual intercourse, when a man ejaculates too soon, or isn’t able to postpone ejaculating until both partners are satisfied. It’s important to note that there’s no set time frame on how long is long enough. Five minutes might be ideal for one man, but another might be seeking to prolong the orgasm for a longer period of time. Experts say it’s more common for young men to experience premature ejaculation, but it can actually affect you at any stage of your life.
As far as causes go, premature ejaculation has a number of suspected factors, though no definite cause is known. Anxiety or nervousness is certainly one of the more commonly cited possible reasons, although the cause can also be something physical, like diabetes.
If the cause really is physical in nature, your best bet is always to seek a doctor. However, if you’re not aware of any physical cause (or suspect it may be your nerves at play), your main concern is likely finding a way to deal with the problem, preferably with as little medical interference as possible.
As sexual problems become less taboo in public discussion, myriad cures for premature ejaculation have come out of the woodwork. Everything from numbing creams to special orgasm-delay methods are being touted as possible solutions. Read on to find out more about the options available for you.
Tips And Techniques To Delay Premature Ejaculation:
This one is really just as simple as it sounds, and can be done alone or with your partner. During either sex or foreplay, and after your penis has been stimulated to the point where you think you’re going to ejaculate, squeeze the head of the penis slightly. Some sources suggest squeezing for only a few seconds, others advise waiting up to 20 seconds. After letting go of the head of the penis (or having your partner let go), wait for roughly half a minute before continuing with sex.
Once you reach the point of wanting to ejaculate again, squeeze again. You can continue doing this until both of you are ready to reach orgasm, or if you’re going solo, until you’re finished ‘practicing.’ The point of all of this is to teach you how it feels to postpone ejaculating – in essence, train your body to be able to delay the sensation for a little longer.
Desensitizing Gels or Creams
These products are lubricants, similar in some ways to anaesthetics, designed to desensitize the skin on your penis. The purpose of this is to help you prolong your erection by causing a temporary numbing sensation when applied. Of course, the way in which desensitizing creams work can also be a downside – sex with less penile sensation likely won’t be as much fun.
Monogamous relationship or not, you’re probably best to wear a condom while trying out these products. If you don’t, the cream or gel can transfer onto a woman’s genitals and decrease sensation for her as well, which kind of defeats the purpose of the whole procedure.
This one can be done with a partner or alone, although you may find it less stressful to try it alone first, during masturbation. Using lubricant is also something you might be interested in trying. Masturbate until you’ve reached a point where you feel like you’re soon going to reach orgasm. Once you’ve hit this point, stop masturbating and let your body relax. Wait a while, until the immediate urge has faded slightly, before beginning again. Whenever you do this, try to get a little closer to the point of ejaculation.
The point of this is to recognize your body’s response to arousal, and eventually learn to predict and direct when you’ll reach orgasm. If you’re practicing with a partner, the best way to try this method can be a way in which the stimulation is easily controlled, such as having her masturbate you or perform oral sex.
This is less of a solution to the problem, and more of a compromise designed to make the situation more pleasing for your partner. Rather than move straight from foreplay to intercourse, make the period of foreplay substantially longer. By bringing your partner close to the point of orgasm through other methods in which you are not being physically stimulated (such as oral sex or masturbation), you’ll be able to bring her ‘up to speed,’ in a sense, before engaging in intercourse.
Once again, this isn’t a way of addressing the real problem, but it can help make the overall arrangement more enjoyable for her.
This method operates on the premise that an extra condom will reduce sensation in your penis and help you stay erect longer, much like the intent of desensitizing gels or creams. While some men do report that wearing a condom can reduce the sensation and thereby make it easier to delay the orgasm, most condom companies advise against wearing two at once, on the grounds that the friction between the two might cause both condoms to tear, rendering them ineffective against pregancy and STDs. If you do try this method be aware of the risks and be sure to check your condoms carefully to ensure that no breakage took place.
Some antidepressants (for example, Prozac) are suggested as possible solutions to premature ejaculation. This is because one of the side effects of many of these is lengthening the time it takes to reach orgasm. However, before you visit your doctor, bear in mind that antidepressants aren’t over-the-counter drugs for a reason.
These are potent forms of medication with often serious side effects, so be sure to do your research before getting a prescription. You might also try visiting a doctor if all of the other suggested treatment methods didn’t work.
The important thing to remember for all of these remedies is not to let failure discourage you. If one doesn’t work, try another. With all the options out there, there’s bound to be something around to help you. Good luck and have fun!