Back by popular demand is this series of articles about the pros and cons of certain sexual positions. The first article in the series outlined what’s good and what’s not so good about the 69, and this article will focus on the best and worst of the female on top position. Of course, you’re probably wondering whether anything could be bad about having a woman mounting you, right?
Well, believe it or not, every sex position has some benefits and disadvantages, and we’re here to educate you on the topic.
The female on top position defined
Unlike more complicated positions that can be found in sexual guides such as the Kama Sutra, the female on top position is pretty simple. Even if you’ve never had sex, the female on top position is just as it sounds – she’s on top of you while you are having sex. Sometimes referred to as the female superior position, this position comprises part of the basic core of sexual positions practiced by a lot of people all around the world. But don’t worry – even though it’s simple and basic, this position can be very exciting for both partners. Keep reading to find out more about this position!
Getting started with the female on top
The first step in trying out any sexual position is a willing partner. Now, we’ll assume that you have one of those, but if you don’t, you can always invest in an inflatable sex doll to try out all your fantasies. There are many variations to the female superior position – basically, any time she’s on top, she’s considered “superior.” In the most basic version, you and she are facing each other and she is straddling your legs.
Pretty basic, eh? Well, to spice up this position, she can straddle you in a variety of ways. For example, if you are having sex in bed, you can be lying flat on your back and she can be on top of you. To mix it up a bit, you can be sitting upright on a chair or sofa and she can climb on top. Or, she can straddle you while facing away from you so that you are entering her from behind, but she’s still on top to control the movement.
Now that you know a little more about the intricacies of this position, it’s time to let you know about its cons.
Getting the right fit – While having her climb on top of you sounds simple, sometimes partners can’t quite find the right fit in this position. For example, some women need direct clitoral stimulation in order to reach orgasm. In order to get this stimulation, she may want to touch herself while you are having sex, and to do this, she may have to lean back a bit. This can be uncomfortable for some men who find that their erections don’t want to bend in that direction.
She controls the speed – This may be a pro for her, but for some men, it may be more of a disadvantage. She might move very slow or very fast while you want to do the opposite. In order to overcome this, it’s good to communicate with each other while in this position.
Penis worries – Because she’s on top controlling the speed and angle of every thrust, some men worry that their erections may come out at the wrong moment and get hurt while she continues to thrust. To fix this, you really just need to get your timing and movement correct. Plus, you can hold on to her hips and bum to maintain a stable motion.
Thankfully for all the men and woman who love this position, there are many more benefits to it than disadvantages.
She’s in charge – For most men, there’s something incredibly sexy about having a woman on top of you while you are at her mercy. With this position, she is in charge of everything and you can relax and enjoy the ride.
It’s easier for her to reach orgasm in this position – When she’s on top, she can use her hands to finger herself in order to reach orgasm. Plus, she can control the angle and speed of each thrust, so she can ensure that she’s getting the kind of stimulation she needs to reach orgasm.
The view – You’ve got an excellent view of her entire body, her face, and her breasts. While she’s riding you, you can play with her breasts, grab her bum and kiss her all over. And when she’s coming, all you have to do is watch her face to know how much pleasure she is experiencing.
It’s comfortable and easy – Unlike some sexual positions which can be difficult to figure out and even more difficult to undertake, the female superior position is simple and easy. It accommodates partners of any size and is particularly good for couples where the man is physically much bigger than the woman. Plus, differences in height don’t matter at all in this position.
Intimacy – This position allows partners to face each other while they are engaging in sex, which adds to the intimacy of the moment. It can be a prolonged session of love-making, or it can be a quickie – whatever the case, you can face each other and enjoy watching each other come in unison.
Getting creative – As was mentioned earlier, this position can be made more exciting with a few simple variations. For example, with you sitting on a chair, she can enter you on top but with her back facing you. This is a great position for you to stimulate her breasts and clitoris while she can use her legs to move up and down.
Great for both of you
The female superior position is great for both partners, so don’t dismiss it as just another version of the missionary position. All of the pros show that this position is a favorite of both men and women alike, so why not give it a try today?