Pros & Cons Of The Missionary Position

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Here’s part three of a series of sex articles dedicated to educating you on the pros and cons of different sex positions. The first in this series outlined the good and the bad about everyone’s favorite, the 69 position. The second article gave you the heads up on the pros and cons of the female on top (female superior) position.

This article is going to expand your horizons on the missionary position, by giving you detailed information on the benefits and disadvantages of this position. Don’t dismiss the missionary position as boring – we’re here to tell you that it can be fun too!

What’s the missionary position and why is it called that?

If you don’t know what the missionary position is, then it’s pretty safe to say that you don’t know much about sex positions. This position is the most basic sex position – the man is on top of the woman, and that’s about it. Her legs can be in a number of positions while engaged in the missionary position. For example, she may be flat on her back with her legs down on the bed; she may have her legs pulled toward her chest; or she may have her legs straight up. In that case, her partner would likely hold onto her thighs while he entered her.

This position got the (unfortunate?) name because missionaries taught it as the proper way to have sex. It’s one of the most commonly practiced positions and as a result, it has a bit of a reputation for being boring and unexciting. We are here to tell you that it can be exciting for both partners. Keep reading to find out more!

Getting started with the Missionary Position

If you haven’t ever experienced the missionary position, it’s possible that you haven’t had sex because this is the most common position used by couples. In the missionary position, the man is on top, but the woman does not just lie there waiting for it to be over. She can curl her legs up to her chest for deep penetration or she can wrap them around her partner’s back for added closeness. For even deeper penetration, she can place her legs on her partner’s shoulders. Of course, this requires some flexibility.

Missionary Position Cons

Now that you know a little about the missionary position, it’s time to illuminate you with respect to its pros and cons. We want to save the best for last, so here are the cons first.

Height/size difference between partners – This is probably one of the main disadvantages of the missionary position. For example, let’s say the man is significantly heavier than his partner. This means that she may feel squished when he is on top of her. Similarly, in cases where he’s not heavy, but is much taller than her, the missionary position may also not be ideal because her head may be level with his chest rather than his head.

Indirect clitoral stimulation – This position can be really unexciting for women if their partners don’t know what they are doing. The missionary position shouldn’t be about thrusting your penis in and out as quickly as possible. Sure, this may work for men, but it’s not doing anything for her because most women need direct clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm. So, rather than going in and out, try to line your pubic bone with her clitoris. Then, instead of thrusting in and out, just thrust in and don’t pull out completely. Your pubic bone will rub against her clitoris which will make the position a lot more exciting for her.

Men are in charge – In this position, the woman is basically at the mercy of her partner because she doesn’t have much room to move or adjust him. Unless he understands this, the missionary position can end up being very boring for females.

He does all the work – Because one partner is doing all the work, they might tire easily. For men who can reach orgasm quickly, this isn’t a problem because they will have climaxed before they tire out. However, for their female partners who need a little more time, having a partner tire out before you climax can be a very frustrating thing.

Missionary Position Pros

All of those cons may turn you off the missionary position altogether. Before you write it off, read the pros. Who knows? It might become your favorite position! Intimacy during sex – One of the main benefits of the missionary position is that it’s one of the most intimate sexual positions because both partners are facing each other and can kiss and cuddle the entire time. Plus, both partners can stare into each other’s eye and watch for that moment when you reach orgasm together.

Versatile – This isn’t usually a benefit associated with the missionary position, but the truth of the matter is that the missionary position can be made more exciting and new with a few simple moves. She can place her legs on your shoulders, curl them towards her chest, wrap them around your back, or place them high up for her partner to hold. Each of these movements changes the missionary position slightly and can allow for very deep penetration.

Easy to perform – There are many different sexual positions available for partners to discover. Some of them, however, require partners to learn very complicated and often uncomfortable positions. The missionary position, on the other hand, is simple and comfortable for almost all couples. And when you are comfortable during sex, you can stop worrying about whether you are holding your body in the correct position and just enjoy the ride.

Maybe those missionaries had something there

Before you give up on this position because of its bad reputation, try it out and add a few new moves. Because you can get deep penetration and intimate sex, the missionary position may be the perfect one for you and your partner.

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